How to Use the Matriz del Destino to Understand Your Relationship

Many people calculate their own Matriz del Destino first, and shortly after start wondering: what happens if I compare my matrix with my partner’s? The short answer is yes, you can, and it tends to be one of the most revealing readings the whole system offers.

What a couple’s matrix actually compares

There’s no single “compatibility arcana” between two people. What we do is calculate each person’s complete Matriz del Destino separately, based on their dates of birth, and then compare their main positions — especially the central arcana (Point E) and Points A, B, C, D — to identify shared energies and complementary energies between the two.

What it means to share an arcana

When two people share the same arcana in a key position, like Point E, it usually points to a natural affinity in that area of life: they recognize each other easily in that shared energy, almost without needing to explain it. For example, two people with Arcana 6 (The Lovers) at their center likely share a similar way of making important decisions from the heart, and of needing alignment of values to feel fully comfortable in the relationship.

A different arcana doesn’t mean incompatibility

It’s a common mistake to think that if two people have different arcana at their center, the relationship is doomed. That’s not the case: different energies don’t mean incompatibility, they mean complementarity. Each person brings something the other doesn’t have, which can also be a solid foundation for the relationship if both learn to value that difference instead of trying to erase it.

How to read the differences as useful information

When a couple’s central arcana are very different, it’s usually helpful to read them as two legitimate ways of being in the world, not as a scale of who’s right. Someone with The Emperor energy (structure, order) paired with someone with The Fool energy (freedom, spontaneity) will likely need to actively negotiate how much structure the relationship needs, instead of assuming that one person’s way is correct and the other’s is a problem to fix.

Calculate your compatibility as a couple

If you want to see this comparison applied to your own relationship, you can calculate your couple’s compatibility matrix for free with our compatibility calculator: you’ll get the complete breakdown of both matrices, side by side, along with an interpretation of the shared and complementary energies between you both.